Jealousy, couples and social networks

Jealousy, couples and social networks

Social networks changed the way young people communicate and relate.

I wonder if in social networks we really show the person we are or create an ideal identity that is only the best part of ourselves. It occurs to me that like the moon, we all show our best face.

Facebook, YouTube, Instagram, Twitter and Snapchat became "indispensable" in the day-to-day life of many teenagers and there are few who give up having a presence in any of these networks.


  • 1 Who writes you? Who likes you?
  • 2 What is Stalkear
  • 3 Beware of excess control
  • 4 Jealousy in the couple
  • 5 Signs to realize that your decision autonomy is in danger

Who writes you? Who likes you?

Almost all people who are in a couple have ever gone through the situation of having togive explanations for their actions on the Internet or that are related to technology. It is usually solved with a couple of explanations, but it may happen that some are persecuted and become stalkers, looking for virtual evidence day and night to corroborate that the other lies. As the saying goes: in the mouth of a liar, the truth becomes doubtful.

The way in which it can affect the real and the virtual, dimension the feeling that a person can experience every day in front of his computer or cell phone and everything that is displayed there. New and different ways of spying and being spied on.

What is the Stalkear

Stalkear is a word that increasingly has a greater rise and use in our language, but that drift from english, from the verb "to stalk" which amounts to "harass", "spy" or "chase."

Something as simple as Enterokay to the Profile your ex, and from there to his friends, a relative, coworkers to see his photos, updates, videos, try to know what they think and do, but without being a contact in your social network.

A person who intends to check your cell phone, movements in social networks is manifesting a significant jealousy problem and you have to be very alert.

Being in a relationship does not imply that you have to lose your individuality, it is important to agree, either with each having access to the social network of the other, as well as respecting that each one keeps for himself the keys to access his accounts.

If you spend checking your cell phone at the time you are in a couple, or you get up at night to look at your computer, it is possible that this attitude is misunderstood.

But in some cases the harassment is not only with the photos and videos, the Stalker can know even with whom you comment on social networks, something that can become very obsessive.

From a Smartphone today you can check minute by minute that your partner is doing, that boy or girl who you frequent or also your ex on social networks. Even, to control where you are if you have GPS activated on your phone or see when it was the last time you connected to the chat and if our message arrived or not. Too much, right?

Beware of excess control

Social networks work as a kind of small alarm that goes on before controlling personalities and let us know what the person next to us looks like in that aspect, even without deepening the link much.

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The lack of appropriate privacy settings, by users on social networks, helps curious users a lot; In the case of Facebook, photos, videos, configured as public are the source of information accessible to people who want to know more about each other without their consent.

Jealousy in the couple

What about trust, but not only the trust we have in our partner, but also the trust we have in ourselves? If you're jealous or jealous, most likely you are in social networks, in real life, both your partner and your friends. A matter of insecurity, of lack of self-esteem, of not being satisfied with ourselves, which leads us to want to control everything the other does, in his online life as in the real one, for fear of abandonment. As much as the couple tries to help us, it is something we need to work with ourselves and many times the help of a professional is necessary.

It’s interesting to see that Instagram and Snapchat lead the list of the worst social networks for mental health. Both are platforms strongly focused on images and seem to be producing feelings of inadequacy and anxiety in young people

Another of the negative impacts of social networks is thatgenerate fear of losing something: a social event or any activity in which others have fun. Therefore, many constantly review their accounts. In this aspect, Snapchat is the network that most provokes this fear, since it is the messenger of the ephemeral.

Signals to realize that your decision autonomy is in danger

  • They constantly review the comments they make about our activity on social networks.
  • They want to know what friends we go out with and where we are going.
  • If they can't find us or communicate, they usually make several calls or leave us messages
  • Every so often they want to "surprise us" and knock on the door of the house without warning.
  • They tell us how we should dress, usually with subtle comments at the beginning.
  • It is rare for them to accept new people in their intimate circle, unless they are the direct connection with that person. Every influence outside your circle is seen as a threat.