We all know how to detect a narcissistic personality with relative ease. Feelings of grandeur and arrogance are not easy to confuse. But what you may not know is that they also exist undercover narcissistic personalities, which are not so easy to detect. In the end they are equally powerful and destructive in their relationships.
The Narcissistic Personality Disorder It is created in two ways in childhood. Either the child has received too much attention or not enough. This leaves a great void in the individual as he enters adulthood. His unsatisfied posture as "taker" becomes the perfect magnet for a "giver" personality. The narcissists They will try to find someone who gives them all the attention they had or did not have when they were children, leaving others with an emotional deficit.
Undercover Narcissists will exhibit these five signs
1. A false humility
Actually this is a form of pride, but shown covertly. Narcissists play to be the victim to give them the maximum possible attention. They say they are doing things because they want to, but in reality they seek the approval of others. They care about themselves and their supposed humility is not sincere.
Their goal is to make others know that they are important and secretly seek their admiration. However, they disguise her as humility, but his is not a true humble character that puts others before himself. Their real interest is to make sure they are admired for their efforts.
2. Lack of empathy
Narcissists ignore the concerns of others. They prefer to continue with their personal agenda, regardless of the circumstances surrounding them, and, as we know, they are selfish. Compassion does not go with them. But if it is they who do not feel well, they will want to be treated as if there is no one else. There is no middle ground; They want to be served, but not serve.
3. Immature answers
Narcissists are very sensitive and are offended at the slightest criticism. They magnify a real or perceived offense more than it deserves. They are not able to dialogue, so they divert the blame to others for their reactions.
Undercover narcissists try to disguise their anger by showing that things don't bother them, however, their nonverbal body language shows this anger even though they don't admit it. They can become passive-aggressive in their answers but not in the actions.
4. Simplification of the needs of others
Narcissists will minimize the needs of the people around them. They will not investigate the details of a particular situation, since they do not consider it worthy of their time. They label people and divert guilt towards them instead of taking responsibility for their own actions. They also reduce problems outside of something simple, in order to set them aside or label them stupid and useless. They do not want to be bothered with the facts of others, only their problems are important and they do not invest their time and energy in something other than their personal agenda.
5. Inability to listen
Narcissists tend to speak quickly, dominating the conversation, and do not usually ask questions during them, so it easily becomes a closed dialogue or monologue. They don't spend too much energy cultivating relationships. They don't care about what the other has to say, because they just want what is best for them, regardless of what they are sharing. They do not find the interlocutor important enough to listen carefully.
Obviously, not all calm or shy people are covert narcissists. But these signs must be taken into account. Undercover narcissists are not as benign as they seem and can cause a lot of anguish.