Being optimistic is not always easy, but it can be achieved if we introduce a series of habits in our daily lives. Because it is true that some have an innate predisposition to be more positive and others to be more negative, but even if you are of the latter, this can change using the right tools and acquiring healthy habits that favor a more optimistic attitude.
Then I will tell you 5 things that can help you see things from a more positive point of view.
1. Value what you have
Be grateful and know how to give value to our surroundings It is key to living a more optimistic life. This does not mean that we are not ambitious, that we do not seek to have more (not only material) and of better quality, but one has to believe that one is able to achieve what is proposed, that is worthy of all that with which He dreams, and a positive attitude towards oneself and life will give us the possibility of believing that we can.
To know positively assess our current situation and giving thanks for it is essential to start the day on the right foot, to feel good.
A great tool that I have used myself and that I recommend without blinking is this newspaper called “The 5 minute journal”. It is that every morning you write what you are grateful for, positive affirmations about yourself and reasons (however small, everything counts) for what you think today is going to be a good day.
This little action that takes us only 5 minutes, can transform your life, because it will help you focus your thoughts on the good, starting the day with joy and desire.
2. The importance of living here and now
The only thing we have insurance in this life is the here and now, and being aware of it is winning in life.
We think we have a whole life ahead of us, that we also have a life ahead of the people we love, but is that so? Who knows? Who can assure you that tomorrow you will be here? No one can, and knowing that the only real thing is the present allows you to value each day as if it were special, it allows you to do things todayIt helps you to do your best. All this entails feeling better about yourself, which undoubtedly translates into a more positive life.
3. You are the average of the 5 people with whom you spend more time
This is a reality based on that human beings mimic ourselves with what surrounds us, especially with people. We tend to conform to a certain extent to the people with whom we spend more time and unconsciously adopt their way of thinking, acquire the same lifestyle and attitude towards it, etc.
That is why it is important to analyze these people: do they give you something good? Do they help you to believe in yourself? Are they happy when good things happen to you? Be honest with your answers, in the end you and only you are the beneficiary or victim of the relationships you have with others.
It is essential to share our life with people who inspire us better, with people who bring us something good (in whatever way).
4. Who do you follow on Instagram?
Today the social networks They are part of our day to day, so we must also monitor who we follow and analyze them: do they give you something good? How do you feel after watching your videos or photos?
If you are discouraged to see how "good" others do on social networks or "perfectly" designed realities, stop following that person.
Does that mean I can't follow people who do well in life? No, quite the opposite in fact. Means that you own the information you consume through social networks, and therefore responsible for it. The best thing for your mental health is that you follow people who motivate you to improve, to grow, to give you something good and / or useful, people that make you feel good. Obviously this is relative to each one, but it is common to all that when we see things that inspire us something good, they motivate us to do things better and this undoubtedly makes us feel good and, once again, see things from a most optimistic point of view.
5. What do you invest your energy in?
I would like to share a fragment of one of my bedside books, "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz:
“Imagine you wake up early in the morning, brimming with enthusiasm and energy at a new day. … So, while you have breakfast, you have a strong discussion with your partner. You get enraged, and you spend a large part of your personal power in the rage you express. After the discussion, you feel exhausted, and all you want to do is leave and cry. … Every day we wake up with a certain amount of mental, emotional and physical energy that we spend during the day. If we allow our emotions to consume our energy, there will be none left to change our lives or to give it to others. ”
That's why it's so important to invest our energy well, in what it is worth spending and in what not. What discussions are worth having and which are not.
We spend all our energy on things and people, and if we want to achieve a life that pleases us, in which we feel comfortable, we have to be able to manage that energy and know when to use it. Negative people, angry that lead to nothing, unnecessary disgust, worry ahead of time ... All that means wasting our energy so that we run out of it to use it in what really matters to us, in what brings us something good and that will allow us to grow and improve.
Feeling good depends on us and is something we have to work on a daily basis. It is our duty to acquire healthy habits that make us feel good: eat healthy, exercise, do not leave things for tomorrow, be yourself… But even if it is easier to lie on the couch to watch Netflix instead of finishing that What you have to do, you know that you feel much better when you have done what you should do.